Saturday, October 07, 2023

He Musts.........

 Every year, I have my students read the entry posted below called The Princess Bride And MookDa's List. It will explain what I'm about to type here. Last week, after reading the previously mentioned article, everyone in my classes listed five absolutes about the person they will marry in both the positives (He Must/She Must) and the negative (He Must Not/She Must Not). So with Valentine's Day only four months off, here is the first installment, used by permission, from my young ladies. They are a combination of eighth graders and high schoolers and all are used by permission:

He must be willing to learn Spanish or speak Spanish. Sophia
He must want our children to have a fun childhood. Kaitlyn
He must love me more than any other woman. Dina
He must make me feel worthy. Makayla
He must love himself in order to love me. Bella
He must be willing to respect my culture and traditions. Adelin
He must have a relationship with my mom, dad, and sister. Addison
He must make the first move. Poppy
He must respect my fears. Peyton
He must love me until the day I die. Caroline
He must be loyal and understanding. Jada
He must ask my dad for my hand in marriage. Harmony
He must make me smile with ease. Sydney
He must like to drive because I don’t. Cayley
He must be at least 6’0” tall. Oluwaseyi
He must be willing to protect me and my family at all costs. Eden
He must get the approval of my family, especially my father’s! Ashley
He must hold me accountable. Jannieka
He must only want me. Brooklin
He must respect and love his mother and sister. Sue
He must be able to build things. Katelyn
He must have a nice smile. Taylor
He must encourage me when I am sad. Cai
He must respect my father. Ava S.
He must be prudent. Sophia
He must want children. Kaitlyn
He must be kind to kids and animals. Dina
He must open and close the door for women who walk past him. Makayla
He must be confident. Bella
He must be able to cook. Adelin
He must have good communication skills. Addison
He must give up anything for me. Poppy
He must handle issues like an adult. Peyton
He must choose me over his friends. Caroline
He must have good style. Jada
He must be involved with his church. Harmony
He must make me feel like a beautiful valued woman of God. Sydney
He must work towards his dreams. Cayley
He must take his academics seriously. Oluwaseyi
He must chase after Jesus to find me. Eden
He must kill all the bugs! Ashley
He must make me a better person. Jannieka
He must be responsible. Brooklin
he must allow me to be sensitive. Sue
He must be able to stand my ramblings. Katelyn
He must respect my wishes. Taylor
He must have good hygiene. Cai
He must love me for me. Ava S.


The Princess Bride And MookDa's List



Recently in class, I told my students that it is my belief that the Lord chose Joseph as carefully as Mary when selecting earthly parents for the Savior. Last week, we talked about the importance of making the right choices when it comes to our mates. I told them the two most important decisions they will make in life are becoming a Christian and picking a partner. We read this entry from August 2, 2006 as part of the discussion. Tomorrow, I will share some of our kids' responses to these thoughts.

My brother, Dave, penned two entries while I was in Honduras on a mission trip. In his second installment, Dave quotes a line from the movie, The Princess Bride. One of our elders, Mark Hall, posted a comment speculating on the number of times The Princess Bride had been viewed in comparison to more well-known blockbusters. This past Sunday morning after worship service, I mentioned the comment to Mark, adding that I had never watched the movie in question. At our evening worship service, Mark walked up and placed his family copy of The Princess Bride in my hands, informing me he had probably seen it fifty times. With a recommendation so strong, guess what I did Sunday night? It was good. I thought parts of it were very silly but that is coming from a critic who thinks Napoleon Dynamite is the finest comedy of all time. What I found memorable occurred in the first several minutes of the fairy tale, as told by a grandfather to his grandson. Buttercup, a young lady played stunningly by Robin Wright, falls in love with the farm hand, Westley. From that moment on, her love never wavers in spite of separation and the belief that Westley was dead. True love was all that mattered to Buttercup, the essence of an unwavering romantic believer. And in the end, well- I don't want to spoil it for the two or three of you who haven't seen this 1987 semi-classic.

Every year for Christmas, my folks purchase a subscription for their children to a periodical called The Christian Chronicle. In the August edition, there was a human interest story, just a few paragraphs, but I was captivated by its charm. It seems a missionary from Trinidad, Parker Henderson, was spending time with Christian friends in Malaysia. Parker just happens to have a thirteen year old grandson. His friends just happen to be parents to an eleven year old girl named MookDa. Parker, perhaps encouraging some future romantic interest, displayed photographs of that grandson to MookDa, who appeared unimpressed. But looks can be deceiving, especially when it comes to eleven year old girls. Reasoning with a maturity belying her age, MookDa proceeded to put her beliefs on paper, a thesis on marriage, if you will. Typing out her standards for Parker, MookDa assembled a list of a dozen qualities of, quote, "the kind of man that I require." Among others, her qualifications included:

1. he must be a Christian 
2. he must be intelligent
3. he must NOT be lazy
4. he must enjoy singing
5. he must read the Bible everyday

To say I was impressed would be an understatement. I work with young people about that age and that type of logic is not universal. What registered most with me was what she did not say. When I hear girls speak of boys they like, one of these descriptions creeps into the conversation: cute, hot, fine, so fine. MookDa, even at eleven, already is looking past the obvious to the eternal. I don't know MookDa, her parents, Parker Henderson, or his grandson. (Parker's brother, Obert, was one of my college Economics professors.) But if in ten or so years, the young man and young lady fall in love, I will believe it was ordained by the Lord. MookDa will never have to resort to Match.com- she knows what she wants. Undoubtedly, her parents have demonstrated an ideal model of a Christian marriage. I kind of scoff when I hear that match made in heaven stuff. I promise, I won't be scoffing should this romance come to pass.

Applicable quote of the day:
"Men and women are equal in love. They are equally vulnerable and equally powerful."
Elizabeth Rapaport


God bless,
Steve
Luke 18:1

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